A question that was recently asked: What is most important in a Master / slave relationship?

The problem with this question is that it is not just a question. It is two questions. Or rather a question within a question, and unless the response addresses the question asked and the question inside, the answer is lacking. Not as a show of disrespect, but for simplicity, I answer in the context of what I know, of a male Master and a male slave.

So, lets answer this first – What is most important in a relationship? In a word – trust, but to give a more complete answer, it is trust and all those things leading up and follow on to trust. Among those that come to mind are -

• There has to be communication among those in the relationship.
• Those in the relationship must be honest in what they say, and how they respond in their actions.
• There needs to be commitment to the relationship, and to those in the relationship.
• Those in relationship need to respect one another and themselves. For what each brings to the relationship is a unique contribution.
• There needs to be a fulfillment of the needs and expectations. At least a valid and valiant attempt to be and do what is needed and expected.

These all are important, leading to trust, and they all apply no matter what the relationship is:

• Between friends,
• Between lovers and spouses,
• Between the government leaders and the citizens that they govern.

The list can go on.

When there is a lack of trust, because someone was not honest, or did not communicate, or did not do all that was expected, not even try, then because trust is lost

• friends drift apart or worse
• the homes that lovers and spouses attempted to bring together break up

The Master / slave relationship today is no different.

Both Master and slave must communicate honestly about who each of them they are, what each expects, and what both are prepared to do to fulfill the respective obligations each to their chosen role in the Master / slave dynamic. To build trust.

And both Master and slave must trust the other, the Master trust the slave, not just as a life partner, but also to do what the Master provides for the slave to do, to act responsibly, to be that which obeys, willingly, to present a pleasing appearance in the slave. Likewise the slave trust the Master, the Man that, at times, quite literally holds the slave's life in His hands, to provide for the common residence, to give the direction on the running of the home, to have the absolute protection that absolutely comes being an Owned Person, that focus of concern to only one, the slave's Master. Each trusting, relying, needing the strengths of the other, each to their own chosen role.

Trust - and all that leads up to that. This is the answer to the question asked.

But secondly, the question within the question: What is important to make a Master / slave relationship? To coin a phrase - adamant certainty.

Possibly the best example of this type of attitude is found in the early scenes of the original James Bond film Goldfinger. Sean Connery, as James Bond is playing golf with Goldfinger. At one point, when Goldfinger is looking for his lost ball (don't go there), Bond remarks to his caddy that "He (Goldfinger) won't find it over there ..", And in response to the caddy's question as to why, Bond replies, "Because I am standing on it." It is not so much the answer but the force of personality that comes through when Bond makes that reply which best exemplifies adamant certainty

How does this relate to the Master / slave dynamic? Because a Master must know, believe, and undoubtably be a Master. It is a powerful declaration, of power, taken and used. No wanna be's wanted. Even early in HIS Masterhood, untried, untrained, unexperienced, and unfulfilled, HE believes the truth of who HE is. A Master IS a Master. HE believes the truth of this statement. HE knows the truth of this statement. HE acts as a Master because HE *IS* a Master. There is no doubt of this Man, who HE is, simply because of the force of HIS personality. HE Owns HIMSELF, in the majesty of simply who HE is. Master

Likewise, the slave must know, believe, and undoubtably be a slave. Be that person that gives up his mind, his body, his all to be a slave to his Master. No half hearted attempt accepted. The slave is dedicated, committed, undoubtably, without question, without reserve, without hesitation. his Master may Own him, but only because the slave has given himself, that completely.

There you have it. The whole of the truth. As I see it.

And when you see this dynamic, it will not because of that one wears His wristband on the left, that one wears a collar. Rather it is not in the attire, it is in who these MEN/boys are. You see the Power of the Man, the dedication of the slave, the adamant certainty of who they are because they trust.

Master Robert